Do You Desire Change And Conflict Resolution In Your Relationship?
Are you worried your relationship is on its last legs due to unsolved problems? Maybe you’re still in the pre-marital stages and are worried about your ability to progress down the aisle. Or perhaps you wish to explore the possibility of splitting amicably.
There are certain behaviors you or your partner could be exhibiting that prevent you from achieving any of these goals.
These negative actions can show up as bickering, nagging, or lack of communication. It is not uncommon for issues like these to cause difficulties in a partnership, and that’s why therapy is so essential to working through conflict.
You And Your Partner Might Look Outside Your Relationship For Consolation
Looking for physical or emotional consolation outside of the relationship—either in an affair or another form of betrayal—can often lead to the final nail in the coffin. But there are things to look out for that could be warning signs that your relationship needs work.
Are you or your partner turning to substances to cope?
Do you or your partner avoid each other at home by overloading on social commitments or work?
Is there an abundance of disrespect or withdrawal on either side?
You or your spouse may often feel alone, even in a committed relationship. These feelings of loneliness could cause either of you to experience anxiety, depression, or regret over not making different choices.
Everyone wants to be seen, heard, accepted, and supported unconditionally by their significant other. Couples therapy can help you get to true emotional integrity and realize that you and your partner can achieve a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Even The Strongest Relationships Will Have Some Rough Spots Now And Then
Some of the most common reasons couples seek counseling are because of a physical or mental diagnosis for one partner. Other times, they experience bumps in their relationship because of infidelity, different communication styles, traumatic life events, and conflicting views about money or child-rearing.
Couples often have difficulty overcoming struggles on their own due to a mindset of win or lose rather than win-win. They may believe their differences are insurmountable because they cannot imagine a compromise, or they don’t have the communication skills to explain their core concerns to their partners. Sometimes, someone may feel that they are an oddity and be embarrassed to share a concern when the other partner may easily understand.
A couples counselor is uniquely equipped to help couples learn to tackle these issues constructively.
Being Raised In Different Backgrounds Can Make It Hard To See Eye To Eye
Each of us is born and raised in different families. Depending on the family, some negative behaviors can be learned, such as not being open about feelings, overindulging feelings, not addressing opinions about money/sex/politics, or having robust (and sometimes hurtful) debates about any topic.
What’s more, many of us come from different religious backgrounds. And we all experience hardships, difficult times, or go through traumatic events that shape our thoughts, opinions, and behaviors. Each characteristic we carry, experience we have, and trauma we go through deeply impacts how we interact in relationships, especially with a significant other or spouse.
Working through these differences and determining common ground to build on is the work of couples therapy.
Couples Therapy Can Help You See Things From A Different Perspective
At Reflections Creative Therapies Group, our couples therapists can hold a mirror up for clients to see their issues in. This can help them see their challenges from a different perspective and allow them to reach different conclusions.
In therapy, couples can receive psycho-education, guidance, mediation, and skilled assistance in reaching their relationship goals.
What To Expect In Couples Counseling Sessions
Couples in therapy typically have three main questions to consider:
1) Has there been a conflict we want to heal and resume our relationship as before?
2). Has there been such a significant conflict that we want to heal, then build a new relationship moving forward?
3) Do we want to end this relationship in a healthy way for everyone concerned?
Therapy is a way to answer any of those questions successfully.
Once these questions have been answered, it becomes much easier to figure out which direction counseling should head in. Oftentimes, for couples that want to stay together and heal their relationship, our sessions will focus on resolving conflict and increasing healthy communication.
For many couples, the solution may be finding a way to agree to disagree in a recurring argument. Instead of shying away from conflict, you and your partner can learn to compromise and work through your disagreements in a way that deepens your understanding of each other. Additionally, we’ll help you find common ground so that you can experience a more profound connection across a broad spectrum of issues
Methods And Modalities We Use In Couples Counseling
Couples can learn to create shared meaning for their lives by building important rituals for connection. These rituals can include setting shared goals, learning how to compromise, recognizing when one partner or the other is experiencing emotional flooding (which may prevent sound judgment), and creating a shared purpose for their lives.
To build these habits, our couples counselors use techniques such as:
- Psycho-Education: Holding up a mirror to show if a partner is projecting issues onto the other. Psychoeducation allows couples to dig deeper into individual issues.
- Mediation: A couples therapist will be there to make sure topics don’t escalate in a negative direction and will be able to get things back on track.
- Skills Assistance: The therapist will help couples achieve essential skills such as communication, compromise, and avoidance of projection, etc.
- Attachment Work: How we learn to bond very early with our parents or caregivers in childhood (Are they safe? Can we count on them? Do they encourage us?). These early attachments are the basis for future relationships.
No matter which of these approaches works best for you, we would be honored to help you and your significant other create a strong emotional bond, overcome defensive behaviors, and deepen your love for each other.
You May Be Interested In Couples Therapy But Have Some Questions…
What if my partner doesn’t want to go?
Couples therapy is only successful if both partners participate to an equal degree. However, individual therapy is often vital in resolving issues within a partnership. If you benefit from therapy and your partner sees the results, they may be motivated to try it out themselves.
How do I know that what I share will remain private?
Counseling ethics require that all client information remain confidential unless someone’s safety is at risk. We will honor your privacy so that you and your partner feel comfortable freely speaking your minds in sessions.
What if the therapist takes my partner’s side?
The role of a couples therapist is not to choose sides but to help you and your partner hear each other and understand where the other person is coming from. The therapist is a mediator, educator, and encourager who can help both of you reach your agreed-upon goals together. We don’t allow any biases to get in the way of our work with couples.
We are committed to creating a safe, non judgmental relationship with both partners in order to assist you in moving towards a healthier relationship.
Are You Ready To Get On The Road To Relationship Recovery?
Whether you’re preparing to tie the knot, simply looking to strengthen your marriage, or planning to go your separate ways, we are confident that we can assist you and come up with a counseling plan that’s tailored to your needs. If you want to start having a healthier relationship, we encourage you to pursue couples therapy with us. Call us for a free 15-minute consultation at (561) 810-6631 or visit our contact page.